I know I'll never lose affection

My friend nakedjen recently blogged about how each of us should have a theme song. While I'm sure it's true for most that a "favorite" song may change from time to time, it is my opinion that a theme song is more lasting, more evocative of one's true Self.

My theme song is one that is a favorite to a lot of people I know. It was the song Dino and I danced to at our wedding reception. It is on a cassette recording I have, immediately preceding the recording of my first child's fetal heartbeat; every time I listen to it I expect that squishy little "thump-bump, thump-bump" to follow. While mourning the death of my marriage, it helped me to eschew bitterness and put one foot in front of the other with a peaceful, loving heart. It came on the radio and caused me to weep with joy as I drove home from the birth of my first grandchild. I hope that it will be played at my after-death party when the time comes.

Here is my theme song. For added love, listen to it while checking out the cuteness below the video.

Positivity is Weird?

That's sad. No, not that someone is hugging their shipments before sending them out into the world. It's sad that something that's intended to send out positive energy is thought of and referred to as "weird."

I was "blessed" with very good brain chemistry. I'm a "glass is half full" kind of person. Although I do try to be sensitive to others who have more negative synapses bouncing around, I think of my encounters with them as an opportunity to spread some of my good juju.

As long as I can remember -- not always, but more commonly than I would hope -- my positivity has been met with either suspicion ("What's she hiding?") or condescension ("She's nuts if she thinks everyone can just flip a switch and be happy.")

Why is it you're crazy if you're smiling, singing or humming while pushing your shopping cart?

Why is it so zany to wave all your fingers at your neighbors?

Why is it offensive or insensitive to speak positively about your finances, your child's birth, your relationship with your teen...?

It would seem to me that it is because SOME PEOPLE LOVE TO BE VICTIMS. Not me, and I'm sure not you, but most people. And if you even suggest to these people that they can magically eschew victimhood, negativity, depression, they scoff. At the very least.

If my mood or my words, which are clearly not shooting out of me like weapons, seem to you at first to be crazy, unusual, offensive or insensitive, is it because they threaten a paradigm you hold about yourself? Can you not just try them on to see if they fit?

I'm not saying that everyone has to be like me (although that would ROCK!). It's just that I know this concept has been true for me in my own experience. When I felt offended or threatened by someone else, it was an opportunity for me to dissect that experience. Try it on. Keep it if I like it; return it if I don't. No big deal.


More In-Your-Facebook

Hey, I'm not waging any kind of anti-FB campaign here...just keeping my public informed.

Dave Winer posted this about our mutual friend, NakedJen recently getting booted from FB without so much as a by-your-leave. That article leads to this one, in which it is noted that 2009 will be a make-it-or-break-it year for FB.

We'll see.