Bye-Bye Facebook

Since one of the (many) reasons I deleted my Facebook account this morning has to do with the amount of time it was sucking out of my day, I won't spend a lot of time on this post. Besides, it seems as though everything I could say about Facebook's suckage has already been said...and more.

In the end, I really don't need an application like Facebook to stay in touch with my friends and family. We can, as my friend NakedJen pointed out in her own blog yesterday, maintain contact the old fashioned way: by email...or phone...or chicken scratches under a postage stamp.

Bonding With The Baby

On Saturday, Koby and Brooke and I left the house at the crack o' dawn. We met Cory for an all-too-early breakfast in Modesto, then the four of us drove together the rest of the way to Visalia. Cindy was throwing a surprise birthday party for my first-born.



So...yeah...Joel's ossum and all {grin}, but while he was surrounded and distracted by many friends, Grandmimi and Koby got to go eye-to-eye with Landon for a good chunk of the day.





The sound on these videos is rather loud and obnoxious, so feel free to turn down your volume before viewing!



Sara has arrived!



Heehee! Steve was clueless again! For the past two months or so, Sara and I have been in cahoots - heck, everybody but Steve was in on this - about her moving out here. She and her bf, Gary, arrived tonight. Koby was their (secret) ride from the airport. Steve was just as surprised as you would imagine just to see her. When I told him she's moved out here, he nearly fell over!

I love surprising him and I'm happy he's so happy.

2008 In Review


It’s been a busy and phenomenal year, folks, and I just know you’ve been anxiously awaiting my holiday letter so you could read all about it!

In January, some major storms came to Sacramento . . . actually, to most of California. We had wind gusts of up to 50 mph here at my house. There was a lot of damage around the region but we were lucky and only lost a few feet of fence.

In February, my friend Bill and I began looking for investment property. We located a nice little house not far from our homes and took the plunge. Finally! We’d been talking about doing this for years! We closed on the Davidson house in March and spent the next six weeks working on it in every spare moment we had. While Bill built cabinet doors, repaired improper venting, rebuilt a wall that didn’t make any sense whatsoever, and spent hours upon hours spackling and painting, I focused on repairing electrical issues with the help of my dad. We also completely re-landscaped the front yard.


By the end of April, the house was ready to go back on the market.


Meanwhile, I spent three weeks in Michigan with Steve and his kids at the beginning of March. Due to weather, my flight out there was The Worst Flight Ever. As soon as my feet hit terra firma I declared, “This is the last time I’m doing this.” I didn’t know at the time how true that declaration would be!

During that month, in addition to visiting The Tridge,


Steve and I got to see his daughter, Lydia, perform in her high school play, Singin’ in The Rain.

It was an amazing production – the best I’d ever seen for a high school troupe! Someone even figured out how to have actual rain come down on the stage! We also celebrated Lydia’s 17th birthday.

Yours truly turned 50 in May. I know, it doesn’t seem possible, does it? My actual birthday passed relatively uneventfully, although Cory and I had fun going to the Sac Jazz Jubilee.


In early June, I flew east to help Steve move. Yes, it’s true. After four years maintaining a long-distance romance, the time had come. Steve left his job as a tool-grinder at Severance in Saginaw, Michigan, where he had toiled away, largely unappreciated, for 18 grueling years. He sold most of his belongings, got Sara

moved in with her mom (Lydia was already living there), and packed what was left into a U-Haul truck. I had a blast driving us across country; Steve didn’t think it was all that much fun.

He hit the ground runnin’ when he got here, though. I wanted him to take a few months off before looking for work. Not only did I think he deserved an extended vacation after all those years in the tool shop – I had a honey-do list for him that was a mile long!

We took a break from the home improvements to attend a really fun housewarming/birthday/swim party at my cousin Kristin’s new house.



In July we hosted a baby shower for Joel and Cindy.

Unfortunately, Steve’s hard work in the garden couldn’t be appreciated by most of the guests, as the temperature that day soared over 100 and kept most of us indoors. It was really fun, though, to see so many of our friends and family in one place.

Every one of the people in this picture were in attendance when Joel was born 26 years ago. (Can you guess which one wasn’t?) I am grateful to everyone who joined us to celebrate his progression into fatherhood.


In August, Koby turned 20. I can’t believe my baby is 20! We had a small birthday party for him at home.


At the end of August, Steve and I splurged on a vacation to Seattle. My dear cousin Linda was preparing to move to Italy. We couldn’t let her leave without saying goodbye!

Steve and I drove up and stopped first for a visit with my mom in Sutherlin. Then we continued on to Corvallis, to Lainie and Paul’s house, where we relaxed for a day and took in a movie at The Darkside, Paul and Lainie’s cinema. Lainie then joined us in the car for the last leg of the trip; Paul followed on his Harley.


In addition to seeing two of our four Seattle cousins, we had some time to be tourists. We took the ferry to Bremerton and back, we shopped and dined around the downtown area, we visited Pike’s Place Market and the Experience Music Project. We also had time to wander through the Kubota Gardens, which is a side-trip I highly recommend.


In Bremerton, we had dinner with my quasi-kids, Peter and Leslie, and their dad Pat.

I met the Pfaus when their mom, Geri, who became one of my best friends, brought them to me for daycare back in 1988. Now they’re grown and married! It was wonderful to have that (all too short!) time visiting with them and their families.

I just wish I had room here for all the pfabulous pfotos we took on our trip!

A week after we returned from our Oregon/Washington trip, my cousin Beth and her husband Craig visited us during their California vacation.

In addition to spending some time with them at our house, we had a ton of fun when everyone got together at Dad and Margaret’s for Margaret’s (always amazing) food and lots of belly laughs and belly dancing.


Finally, in September, Bill and I closed on the sale of the Davidson house. Lesson learned: there’s absolutely nothing wrong with doing a For Sale By Owner, but you must get it on the MLS to get proper exposure! After futzing around with free advertising for a couple of months, Bill and I paid a guy to list it on the MLS and – Shazam! - it sold within a couple of weeks. And whoever tells you that flipping can’t happen in this market has not met this team. We did well and immediately started looking for the next house.

Also in September, both Steve and Koby started new jobs. Koby left his job at the frame shop due to severe boredom and became Warehouse Manager at Capitol Rubber in midtown. Steve secured a position as a Line Service Technician at Atlantic Aviation, an FBO located at Mather Air Force Base. I’m so happy and proud that they both love their jobs! As for me, I continue to work from home as an IT Analyst and Project Manager for Sterling Savings Bank.

In October Bill and I purchased the Butterball house.

This one was an amazing find: a foreclosure that not only hadn’t been trashed by the previous owners, they even cleaned it when they moved! All we had to do to this one was put up fresh paint on one room, install an outlet in the garage for the garage door opener, and repair some broken glass in the patio slider. A little cleaning, some water on the lawn, and voila – it’s ready. At first we thought we’d keep it for awhile, but the market is flooded with rentals right now so we’re about to list it for sale. Want it?

On November 14th, my grandson, Landon David Dean Musso, entered the world. Koby and I were in the waiting room, along with Cindy’s dad Dave, and Dino and his wife Julie. While she labored, Cindy had Joel and her sister Laura with her. Landon was a tad big for tiny Cindy, though, and ultimately had to be delivered by C-section, but everyone came out of it healthy and happy. I’m telling you, a smarter, more beautiful child has not graced this planet since the arrival of Joel and Koby!


Lydia joined us for nine days wrapped around Thanksgiving. We had a great time showing her the sites around Sacramento, and she had fun taking about a zillion pictures! The day after Thanksgiving, Steve and Lydia went to Santa Cruz for some beach hopping and more photography.

Lydia is interested in belly dancing, so we couldn’t miss the opportunity to take her to Marrakech to see our friend and favorite dancer, Zaheea. it was fun that they got to meet.

In early December, Margaret hosted a party for my dad’s 80th birthday at a nearby Persian restaurant.

Whenever two or more Armenians are together, dancing naturally occurs, and it certainly did that night!

Several of us read tributes that we had written for my dad. What a guy! At 80, he still works his butt off around La Quinta, their eight-acre home in Shingle Springs, and still finds the energy to whoop it up with his daughters!

There is one more member of my family that I would be remiss in not including in this letter.


Geghetsik Arakelyan is a little girl who came into my life three and a half years ago. She lives in a village near Yerevan in Armenia. She’s a bright little girl who just wants to do well in school so that she can someday become a doctor. Geghetsik is one of thousands of children in depressed areas around the world who can use help from those of us who are more fortunate.

We’ve all heard so much negativity in the media over this past year; I’d hate to think that has clouded everyone’s outlook. I encourage you to take a few minutes and think about all that you have – a warm home, people who love you, a full belly when you go to bed at night. With the new year upon us, I hope you will leave behind all thoughts of the trials and tribulations you may have had to deal with during 2008, and think ahead to what role you might play in making the world a better place over the coming year.

Multiple Personality Disorder




I've decided I hate blogs. As soon as you publicize your blog - as soon as you let your family and friends know about it - you're officially screwed. You can no longer write whatever spills from your brain. The free-wheeling, expressive, no-holds-barred you that sits on your right shoulder is thenceforth whipped into submission by the diplomatic, peace-loving, for-god's-sake-don't-ever-hurt-anyone's-feelings censor that lives on your left shoulder.

To remedy this, I have personally ended up with four, count 'em, four blogs. Not counting the ones I've started and abandoned. Four is too much for me to keep up with. Plus, I find myself gnashing my teeth every time I try to write to this one that you're reading right now. This one that I've let my family and friends know about.

Odd, isn't it? I am in love with honesty. I subscribe to (what I like to think is) reality. I appreciate few things in this world more than nakedness of the soul. Yet I find myself couching every word. Maybe it's because I get to hear so much sh!t from others when I do/say/be what I think is right. Maybe it's simply because I'm a damn Gemini and can see both sides and don't want anyone to be unhappy.

All of my life I've kept a journal. I wouldn't be a bit surprised if my mom told me I had come out of the womb carrying a gel pen and a spiral notebook. When I became a computer geek and realized I could type almost as fast as I could think, I began keeping my journal on my computer. I wrote nearly every day like that for, oh, 12 odd years. (And, boy, were they odd! ba-dump-bump-chaa!) Then came the day when, with one quick, innocent click of the mouse, I accidentally wiped out those odd years. Didn't mean to. Nearly vomited when I realized I had. Didn't have a proper back-up. That's when I started journaling on the WWW. Back-up problem solved! New problem created.

So, in summary, this sucks and I do not yet know of a solution. I am not interested in writing for the general public; my writing is All About Me. Perhaps abandoning three of my blogs and keeping only the Very Top Secret one is how I will have to proceed. How boring.

Body Image

With 10 million women suffering from eating disorders nationwide, body image is one of the biggest issues we face as women today. It’s time to free ourselves from fat talk, and focus on the healthy ideal–which looks different for every woman–and focuses on health, NOT weight or size.

It starts with you. It starts today!


Hair Today; Gone Tomorrow




I recently cut off 11" of hair and donated it to
Locks of Love.

I'll probably
grow it out again.


Kung Fu Kashi


I was just out front cutting up boxes for the recycling when suddenly a small pitbull jumped me from behind. She turned out to be friendly - just wanted to say howdy - but I didn't know that in the moment and I yelped! Kashi heard me and came charging out from the garage, jumped on the dog and totally beat the crap out of her! She got away and scrambled backwards. I was still panting and going, "Holy crap!" and "Go away!" She sooooo wanted to come back over and say howdy again, but every time she moved, Kashi was all like, "I don't think so mother fucker! Come on! Bring it on! Bring your cousins! You wanna go?"

She's my heroine.

Work!


After a month of unemployment, Koby started his new job at a rubber supply company last week. It sounds mind-numbingly boring to me, measuring and cutting rubber hoses for custom orders, but whatever - it's a paycheck! He comes home tired and with dirty hands, but he says he's enjoying the people and the productivity of the job.

Steve started his first California job today. He's working at Mather AFB for Atlantic Aviation, refueling airplanes and doing various other airplane-related stuff. He's so excited, he could bust! He loves working around airplanes and airports, and he says the people are cool and there's a ton of information to learn. This job is just what the doctor ordered for him!

Landon Expandin'


Joel & Cindy were up for a visit this weekend. As always, it's great to see them - and especially fun now to watch Cindy's belly expanding with the growth of my first grandchild! We got to watch a 3D video sonogram of the boy! He looked like a bronzed cherub. I can't wait to meet him!

Poor Cindy has been suffering from PUPPS, which I had never before heard of. With help and advice from my friend who is a doula and an herbalist, we've been able to finally get her some relief from the itching so she can get some sleep!